Do You Feel Stupid for Being Nice

Being nice is something that not all people have the privilege of knowing or understanding. Those persons who are not "built" the same as you probably do not understand the concept of being nice and what it takes to be kind. Being a nice person requires things that others do not possess, one of those things is patience. Angry people do not have a single ounce of patience in them, if they did they probably wouldn't be so damn angry. When it comes to being nice, it definitely requires a great deal of self love and understanding for others around you. Niceness can also require much more than just that. People tend to think that being a kind, loving, genuinely nice individual is either a joke or something that should not exist. Some people tend to think that the "nice" people are so stupid and naïve that they can get them to do just about anything that they wish but you know that's not true...right?

You are probably a very nice person, hence the reason you are here reading this. You probably go back and forth with yourself often trying to "change" who you are and the things that you do. You attempt to do these things because you feel stupid and like you allow others to get over on you. You feel as though you are not strong or assertive enough and that the word "No" should be used more regularly in your vocabulary. You feel depleted and less than. You feel as though the world uses you as a stepping stone or maybe a doormat just to wipe their feet on. You think you have no backbone or that you can not speak up for yourself. You kind of feel like a fucking loser!

You do not have to feel stupid because you are nice!! Wanna know why? Because being nice is something that resonates positive vibes and energy. Being upset, mad, disappointed or frustrated are feelings that bring bad energy to you and those around you, which is not good. Positive energy; joy, kindness and love, provide you with an energy that pulsates every where you step foot in. It is seen though it is not seen, and others feel this in your presence. Some do NOT like it! In fact, they can NOT stand it. They dislike any and every thing about your presence and the energy you bring. Then there are others who really just want to take advantage of the energy you bring for their own personal gain. Whether for entertainment, gossip or for personal reasons of their own.

Have you ever asked yourself why someone treated you so badly in spite of all the good you did for them? Have you ever found yourself questioning who you are as a person after a really bad breakup or family dispute? Have you ever found yourself in tears because someone ripped your heart out of your chest after the sacrifices that you made for them? Notice anything in common with those questions? Well the answer is you are not putting yourself before others. You tend to focus so much on others and not as much on you. You allow others to validate who you are and what you mean to them as well as yourself. The same way you care so deeply about them is the same way you should care about you. You are precious and you have the ability to do great things in this even though others try to use you, but first you must pay close attention to YOUR self so that YOUR light can shine even brighter than it ever has.

Being nice is like having a giant flashlight 24 hours a day, 7 seven days a week. You shine during the day yet no one truly sees but in times of darkness you provide nothing but light. You can not allow the world to dim the light that resides within you. And NO you are not stupid for being nice! You are amazing and a rare breed. You just have to seek guidance from "Your" Higher Power and ask for discernment when it comes to certain areas of your life.

You also have to learn to love YOU MORE than you love anyone else. Loving you is a process and though you may think others around you have that self love thing figured out, in actuality most people really don't. You were probably told to "fake it till you make it", and 9 times out of 10 those around you are doing just that. But this isn't one of those areas where that applies. You must love you for you and if you do not love who stands before you in the mirror then you must begin to change. The saying is "Nice guys finish last", and its pretty much true because nice "guys" put others before themselves. Nice "guys" would rather others be happy and content rather than focusing on what they desire.

Start putting you first! Learn to love yourself and distribute your love and light around the world to others. Never allow the world to dim your light! Your love, kindness and amazing spirit is what can change the lives of others. When you dig a bit deeper into your true self, you will start to understand your purpose and exactly what you were created to be. Stupid is not one of them, dumb is not one of them and neither is naïve. You are a diamond. Like a diamond you have to be discovered and then once you are discovered you are dusted off and transformed into a work of art. All diamonds have value, the value of stupid is not one of them. So transform into what you were created to be and let people continue to think that you are stupid, dumb and whatever else. Because nice people do what they do from the bottom of their hearts and karma will come for those who thought those nice people were so stupid! Keep letting your light shine, keep being great and keep finding YOU!

LOVELIVELIFEYALL,

-NikkiGhee

---

GO AND FOLLOW:

#REALPERSONALTHEPODCAST for more from NikkiGhee and get support, inspiration and real personal stories that relate to you!!

Discouragement

In the Beginning

Have you ever felt so strongly and so passionate about something that you could feel it resonate in your bones? Have you ever had visions of yourself accomplishing something so great or so powerful? Have you ever had thoughts of things that that seemed to mesh so well with who you are both inside and out? Those thoughts, those visions, those feelings seemed real, right? At that moment you felt as if you could accomplish those things along with much more right? In those moments no pause, or filter or doubt occurred, right? Those things were very real, very vivid and very personal. More personal than most things that you have encountered in regards to thoughts or feelings or visions, right? So why is it that those things seem to fade away so very easily, that once they begin to "feel" real something within comes along and snatches their very essence away?

Deep Seeded

It is called "discouragement." Discouragement is that feeling of creativity suddenly turning into thoughts or feelings of doubt. Discouragement is that thought that lingers in the back of your mind while you're trying to write that amazing business plan. Discouragement is that voice within that turns from "you can do this" to "who are you fooling". Discouragement is the reason why you never finish the things you start because you suddenly feel as if you can't or starting a new year's resolution in January only to stop before February because you feel it is a waste of time. Discouragement takes that very thing that had you feeling so amazing and so optimistic and producing fear, anxiety and deep seeded sadness. Discouragement is not created it is embedded within the mind and it peaks it's ugly head up as soon as you begin to create something beautiful for yourself.

Fight the Good Fight

Just because discouragement appears, does not mean that you have to bow down and give up. Discouragement in my opinion is a bunch of negative thoughts all wrapped in a package. Presented to you for the purpose of causing you to discontinue with the things that can be manifested through you. It takes away your desires, it weakens your mind and that further weakens your abilities. Without believing that you can attain something that something can not exist. You can not build a house if you never purchase supplies for it. You can not paint a picture without a canvas or paint. Discouragement takes away your belief, it strips you of the supplies that you need to build that house or paint that picture. Granted, it does not stop you from accomplishing anything, but it does weaken your thoughts which are the very beginning of anything that you wish to achieve. You have to fight! You have to learn to acknowledge when discouragement attempts to influence your thoughts so that you can build the necessary skills needed when that time comes.

The Power Lies Within You

In order to fight those thoughts of discouragement you must be equipped with the necessary equipment needed to do so. Every person is different, so what tool works for others may not be the right tool for you. A right handed person can not use left handed scissors, right? The same thing goes when it comes to finding the right tools to help you with the fight occurring within your thoughts. Some people wear a size 9 shoe, others wear a 7. Both people wear shoes but they just wear them in different sizes. It can be the exact same shoe in every way except for the size and ultimately the shoe serves the same purpose. You must find what works best for you. The mind is powerful and there are so many different ways to strengthen your thoughts and to fight back those thoughts that are not meant for your growth and happiness. Some people choose prayer and religion, others go with meditation and spirituality. Some people have a combination of both and some use neither. You must figure out what fits well with you, not anyone else. Take the initiative to really search for what it is that completes you and what honestly allows you to flourish and fight those negative thoughts.

---

Get More Regarding This Post and Much More...

Go check out Real Personal the Podcast, available NOW!

Limit Yourself Much?

Do you limit yourself? Do you second guess yourself or talk on yourself to yourself? Do you watch others living their lives and think, "I wish I was them." Do you criticize yourself for every little thing? Do you treat yourself as "average" or even below? Do you come up with great ideas but then tell yourself that it can not be done or that you can not do it? Do you get disappointed with yourself when you have not completed something that you had already talked yourself out of doing? Do you come up with great ideas or creations but allow your own negative thinking to down play just how wonderful that idea or creation is? If you answered yes then you, just like me have been limiting yourself. You have been stopping your #growth and #development from progressing. I too was a victim of myself but I did not understand what was happening. I assumed that my thoughts were accurate and that whatever my thoughts told me must be true. That was a LIE!

Negative Mind Space

Creating a negative space in our minds towards yourself is very easy. You can fool yourself into thinking that just because you're confident on the also then whatever the inside says must be true as well. You believe what your mind tells you because, after all it is your mind. And you would NEVER believe that your mind is telling you anything wrong. Trusting yourself is a sacred part of your existence or being. You not trusting You is kind of crazy. Your thoughts and feelings are what trigger your moments. These things leave a huge impact on you as a whole. The thoughts that you create are what starts the process of fear and that fear turns into a very real like emotion which turns into an action. Yourself is the only thing that stops you from accomplishing even the smallest of things. You determine whether you want to be happy, sad, successful or fearful. You are the reason for your limits but you can also become #unlimited.

Thoughts are Like Children

"You do not have to believe your thoughts just because they are yours. Your kids are yours but you know when they are lying." -NikkiGhee

No parent wants to believe that the kids they gave birth to are capable of lying to them. Believing that your child has lied to you is an act that takes a chunk of you away. When you think of your kids you think of what you would like for them to be. You think about how sweet they are and how cute they look. You envision them a piece of perfection. Then something happens. You realize that your child is staring you right in the eyes lying to you. Your whole world comes crumbling down. The child that you imagined as a walking angel has now done something that will taint them in your eyes. That child is no longer your perfect being. Your heart is crushed and you are so confused, maybe even in denial. But facts are facts and the fact is that your kid has just lied to you. Kids are just like your mind. They belong to you, they are attached to you but that doesn't mean that they will not lie to you. You don't want to believe that the child you gave birth to would tell a lie but they do. Your mind might belong to you but that doesn't mean that all those thoughts are believable.

Beyond the Lies

After you have come to grips with the internal sabotage that has been going on within then its time to start growing. Growing is going to take place at its own pace. It is not going to happen overnight. You probably wont even realize that #growth is occurring. Once you have revealed to yourself that you have been hindering your very purpose and progress, something inside of you will begin to spark. Something inside of you will burn and cause an overwhelming since of happiness and confusion all in one. You will try to figure out what is happening but it won't be that obvious. The things that you use to enjoy are no longer enjoyable, the people that you use to hang out with are no longer a desire to hang with and your actions will show others a different side of you. You will start to show more #confidence and less tolerance for any type of #negativity. When you change the way that you think you change the way that you were. You change for the better and you become more free and much more content and driven. By changing your thoughts you can create an endless possibly of things for yourself. Your world will become much more meaningful and you will bring much more happiness to yourself and those around you. Changing the way that you think is certainly not an easy task but it does become easier with time.

Get Inspired

To keep up with all things #Wix, including website building tips and interesting articles, head over to to the Wix #Blog. You may even find yourself #inspired to start crafting your own blog, adding unique content, and stunning images and videos. Start creating your own blog now. Good luck!